The Toughest Stage of Being a Mom might not be what you think. According to a recent study, the middle school years cause the most stress for mothers. Researchers at Arizona State University found that mothers of middle schoolers experience more stress and decline in confidence than parents of younger or older children.
If your a mom like me of middle school kids, you’re probably feeling the stress, worry, and frustration of raising kids who are growing into their independence. Realization hits. They are beginning to need less of you and push for more freedom in order to navigate this new stage of their life. If you find yourself dealing with your teens growing independence here are a few tips to make parenting a little easier.
Listen & Engage. There is a lot to talk to our teens about. Let’s face it, we need to talk about puberty, bullying, peer pressure and other issues. Be available to listen to their concerns and answer their questions with age-appropriate information. Try watching movies & TV together. This is a great opportunity to have open discussions and connect.
Set limits. Tweens are bound to be moody, but you can help them deal with anger constructively. Be a positive role model. Let kids know that it’s okay to take time to cool off, but violent outbursts are out of bounds.
Provide reasons. Be open to discussing house rules.Tweens are likely to be more cooperative if they understand your concerns and know that you value their input.
Teach organizing skills. Your tween is probably facing more intense academic and social demands. Give them some pointers on managing their time and remembering homework assignments. Trust me, their teachers will appreciate it.
Show your appreciation. Focus on the positive. Praise kids for studying hard and pitching in with household chores.
Encourage extracurricular activities. Sixth to eighth grade is a great time for kids to explore new interests and build their confidence. Share their enthusiasm for the things that interest them even if it involves video games.
Your tween’s physical and emotional growth can be a cause for celebration as well as concern. Help your kids flourish during their middle school years. As much as they push away remember they’re still just kids who want to feel loved and appreciated. Take the time to give your kid a hug and tell them how much you love them.
Did you know that self-awareness & attitude can increase your confidence? Here are 6 simple, but powerful practices that will increase faith in yourself.
Practice positive self-talk. If you want to feel positive about yourself, you need a positive outlook. Focus on things in your life that you can be grateful for.
Practice self love. Be your own best friend and supporter. You’re an amazing human being so remind yourself of how great you are.
Find your champions. Avoid people that don’t support your dreams and goals. Look for your champions, your supporters and surround yourself with these people.
No more complaining. Instead of complaining, work on a solution. Know in your heart that you can handle any challenge in your life and do it.
Quit worrying about what others are doing.Be confident that you have a good plan and are capable of executing it. Let everyone wonder what you’re doing instead of worrying about what they’re doing.
Go for it. Confident people don’t need 100% certainty. They are willing to take necessary risks and take a leap of faith.
Don't let lack of confidence get in the way of making the impact you want in life. You are capable and I believe in you. Just imagine the amazing things you are going to accomplish with a higher level of faith in yourself.
Practicing alone time can provide a sense of freedom that many of us lack in our day-to-day lives. Here are 5 benefits to spending some time alone each day.
You can do whatever you want. You get to do whatever you want when you’re alone. This can be a blessing if you have a spouse and children! Imagine, you can:
Your creativity increases.There’s a reason why artists, musicians, writers, and other creative types go into isolation when it’s time to create. Your mind is much freer to wander and develop new ideas. Most people aren’t nearly as creative as they could be.
It makes you happier. Several studies have shown that people that regularly have some time to themselves are happier than those that don’t.
Reflect on the big things. Your alone time is the perfect opportunity to work on your bigger challenges, make big decisions, and ponder the meaning of life.
Spending time alone is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Enjoy your solitude and be thankful for it.
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Are you comfortable being yourself in all situations?
How can you develop the courage to be your authentic self?
Be yourself and take back control of your life:
Overcome your need to fit in and impress others. You’re an amazing person. Allow yourself to be that person each and every day.